"I Must Marry' - Written by Charly Boy

Wanting so badly to get hooked is
something many people seem to
take far too lightly and for
granted these days. Something
some of them feel they should do
to win acceptance from people
and society. These days’ people
look at the package and never the
content, forgetting that marriage
should be a life time commitment
of two strangers. In some cases
the marriage may workout, like,
Charles and Diane, Tunde and
Wummie. But most of the time it
falls like a park of cards, because
as people are rushing to get in,
people are rushing to get out, at
an alarming rate. Kai!!
These days break ups and divorce
has become the trend as soon as
the honey Moon is over. People
use to think that divorce rate is
only high amongst celebrities, but
now, across board, couples are
falling asunder, going under the
pressure of a very bad decision ,
just because they Must Marry.
In these hard times, people are blowing
and burning pots of money on very
fancy weddings that really don't last
after the honey moon. In this age, some
parents still pressure their daughters in
getting married early. It's like, once your
girl crosses the 30yrs bracket, they start
to panic, getting anxious and putting
pressure on their girl to get married, like
it is that easy. She just can't go to the
market and buy a husband, or can she?
When the poor girl insists on finding her
dream man, she is accused of being
unserious. Parents please learn to back
off joor, it's not by force. After all, are
they the ones who will leave with the
spouse?
There is nothing wrong with waiting for
the right person, because if it is the
razzmatazz of the wedding things that
you enjoy, go ahead and throw yourself
a big nonstop party for a whole week.
After all, weddings are just one day
event, but a marriage is supposed to be
a life time thing. I know that weddings
are fun, romantic and you can finally
tell your girlfriends, boyfriends or your
sugar daddy's that you have finally
captured your own ‘ mugu’ . But has this
guy been tried and tested? Dating and
courting is a different matter from ‘Till
Death Do You Part’. Living with one
human being for the rest of your life. My
sister look the thing well oooo. Bebe, do
you have an idea how your guy
functions in rough weather? When
reality bites, is he calm or does he freak
out? Do you share the same interest in
some things? Bebe, before you rush into
this marriage, it is important to learn
where your partner stands on the bigger
issues of your life together. Do you have
the same values? Sit him down and
have a long talk about these and other
issues that are of importance to you,
you may discover that chances of a
long lasting marriage could be slimmer;
women are intuitively wired to pick up
these things. Are you a learner?
For me, I got hooked up with a woman I
never saw coming and a woman I will
never let go. When I met my wife, she
was not even a girlfriend or a lover. I
liked her physically, because she had
and still have curves that men would die
for, but she was never my idea of a
wife. She kept hanging around like
other beautiful women around me; it
was more or less a platonic
relationship. All the time I didn't know I
was under the microscope of the FBI
and the CIA. She was to tell me all this
after our marriage. Even though we
dated for about 3yrs, in my wildest
dream I never saw her coming till one
morning after sleeping over, she woke
me up, looked me straight into my
sleepy eyes and demanded that I marry
her in the next few days or she will
leave me. Wow! Before then, no one
ever threatened me like that, no one
ever gave me ultimatums. Who born
them? Me CharlyBoy? Little did I know
that this woman for years has been
doing research on me, this woman has
seen me ‘finish’, figured out how to
arrest and deal with me. When I was
much younger, I had a very violent
temper, I was obnoxious. And she had
witnessed me a few times in my rage
with other women. "Ain't you afraid that
I will hurt or harm you" to that she
answered, "you can never hurt or harm
me because I will never give you a
reason to" hummmmmm!!! Oh! See
finish.
Bebe, it's easy to know what you are
getting into. If in doubt, investigate, set
exams for the guy. I believe women are
emotionally smarter than men. You
must know who you want to marry, it's
important for your happiness. You don't
deserve scrap especially if you are
hardworking, intelligent, progressive
and forward looking. Investigate him
from all angles, don't be in a rush joor.
You don't deserve that heartache
because the way marriages are
crashing, it's making me catch cold.
With the way things are going, very
soon we will be throwing divorce parties
and inviting friends and well-wishers to
celebrate divorce anniversaries. They
will choose asoebe , hire a big hall, with
Dbanj as the entertainer and Julius Agu
as the MC. Even questions like, "when
are you getting your divorce" will be the
buzz.
So if you know you can't handle the
pressure, remain single. If the man is
still under investigation, please take
your time, don't rush. If you know that
you are too horny to be faithful, biko
remain single and have a ball. If you
can't endure bad weather from time to
time, stay in your father’s house joor.
Never get married out of desperation or
because other people are getting
married. If you want a beautiful home,
like mine, examine your choice of a life
partner, there are a lot of gigolos out
there preying on desperate babes like
you. But show them say you pass them.
No be you?